Second Mix - Reflect, Revise, and Remix Your Life

Just Two Epiphanies Can Change Your Entire Life Direction

September 09, 2021 Matthew A Bennett Season 1 Episode 65
Second Mix - Reflect, Revise, and Remix Your Life
Just Two Epiphanies Can Change Your Entire Life Direction
Show Notes Transcript

HOW. The most important question you can ask yourself when you run up against a stone wall. How do I get this done? How do I get through this? How do I learn this skill? How can I run this business successfully? How do I meet the right people? How do I talk to those people?

The other word is UNTIL. As Jim Rohn always asked, how long should it take a baby to learn how to walk? How long would you give your average baby? How long before you said, “okay, never mind. It’s just not gonna happen.” Any parents listening would call me crazy. “My kid is going to keep working at it until he learns how to walk.” Until is a powerful word that inspires perseverance and rugged effort. 

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There are two phrases that I go back to that created epiphany moments inside me that were almost physical changes. Both came from Jim Rohn. The first was “Failure is a few small errors in judgment repeated every day, and success is a few small disciplines practiced every day.” That got me going, realizing that if I tweaked little tiny things in my day, this would completely change the course of my entire life. 

The second epiphany moment happened when I heard this: “Don’t wish things were easier – wish you were better. Don’t wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for fewer challenges, wish for more wisdom.“ I liked it so much that this quote is on the back of my business cards. 

This phrase turned my life upside down for a while. I spent my life wishing things were easier. Taking the easy path and wondering why things were working out for some people, but they weren’t working out for me. 

I wished for fewer problems. I’d say, “it seems like every time I turn around there’s a new problem to solve. Things just pile up on me.”

I wished for fewer challenges. I’d say “Everything I want to do in life gets so hard. It seems like it’s going really well, and then things don’t work out like I want them to, and it gets too complex for me to deal with. Why can’t life be less challenging? 

I’d get a great business idea, start to run with it. Get one excellent paying client. Wonderful. Then I’d find another client, and they would give me problems to no end. Complaining about my website design – asking me to do things I didn’t know how to do. I’d finish that job, or not finish it, and then look for another business idea. 

I built foundations everywhere and then left the empty foundation to go build another one. I didn’t build the building or the house. I just left it to rot. 

It never occurred to me, during these times, that I could get better, that I could get more skillful, that I could get wiser. 

 The shining moment, the epiphany moment was the realization that I could do all these things. 

The realization that things were piling up around me because I wasn’t doing any shoveling myself. The understanding that things go wrong for everyone. I spent my life thinking I was the anomaly because things just seemed to go wrong for me, and it never crossed my mind that things go wrong for everyone. 

And the difference between those who successfully get through them and those who do not is simple. In fact, it’s as simple as two words – two powerful words that you can begin employing in your life immediately, and I’m telling you they will be the best employees you ever had. 

The first word is HOW. The most important question you can ask yourself when you run up against a stone wall. 

How do I get this done? How do I get through this? How do I learn this skill? 

How can I run this business successfully? How do I meet the right people? How do I talk to those people?

After you say how, then you can get to work – to learn. Learn how to do all of this. Nobody is better than you, nobody is smarter than you. Everything you need to be successful in business and in life is a skill that can be learned. There is nothing that you are missing in your brain or your personality, that is going to cause you to fail. If I can learn something from a book, so can you. If I can get out there and learn how to do something, so can you. Nothing you need to succeed is beyond your capability or beyond your understanding. 

So ask how, and then get out there and read the books, and watch the YouTube videos, and find the people who are doing what you want to do, and learn from them. 

The other word is UNTIL.

As Jim Rohn always asked, how long should it take a baby to learn how to walk? How long would you give your average baby? How long before you said, “okay, never mind. It’s just not gonna happen.”

Any parents listening would call me crazy. “My kid is going to keep working at it until he learns how to walk.”

Until is a powerful word that inspires perseverance and rugged effort. 

What would happen in your life if you decided that you were going to keep reading until you understood? Or keep practicing until you learn the skill? Or keep going until the job is complete? Or keep asking until you got the answer?

I can answer this question with absolute conviction. Your life will explode into positive change like mine did when I began to ask HOW CAN I DO THAT and decided that I’m going to keep going UNTIL I GET IT. 

These two words are the beginning to building efficacy – your ability to produce your intended result.